Take the time

There is no question in my mind you can learn a lot from pain. From being in a very dark place, and getting help to come out of it. I love to have conversations with people who are looking for help, who are experiencing pain and want to change. But want to handle it in a good way.
One thing that really bothers me though, is people who take other ways out, or just run from their problems. I'm not saying they're bad people, they aren't. It is very understandable how people end up down other paths. I look back and see some situations where I could've easily fallen down other paths. Some darker than you could probably imagine. But I just wish these people would get a little more broken, so they could bring out the best in themselves and be stronger and more loving. Certain people I meet, I don't want to help them, I want to break them a little more first. Cause I think that's what needs to be done with them so they can really change. Friends sometimes need to just push them away, but they won't. Cause I don't think they understand, or they don't have the courage or care enough to try. I feel like this is the majority of our population. People just hanging on. Broken people that aren't quite broken enough to face it. But are getting by.
I hope that these people decide to recognize and focus on how they can improve themselves. You don't have to wait untill you think about suicide to go see a therapist. You don't have to lose someone close to you to realize you might have a problem with drugs or alcohol and go check yourself into a treatment center. You don't have to wait till you almost kill yourself from cutting too deeply to talk about your struggle with self-injury. You don't have to wait to get into a fight with a loved one so you can tell them something that has been hurting you.
Talking is so simple. But a conversation can be hard to start. Take the time to take a deep breath and think for a few minutes about your life. To think about hope. To think about how you are really doing. To recognize that help is out there in so many places. And that it's okay to ask for it.

"This is you're life, are you who you want to be?"
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